10 Steps to Build Self-Love

Learning how to love yourself is so important. We have so much on our plates and find it difficult to take time for ourselves. We have to love ourselves before we can give love and energy to everyone else. I hope you find these steps useful in learning to facilitate self-love.  “In order to shine your light, you must embrace its power by learning to love yourself first.”  -Kelly Gibson

  1. Positive Affirmations: Get rid of all negative self-talk. Practice speaking only words of encouragment to yourself. It helps to look in the mirror and say them aloud, even if you don’t believe it at first. Repeatedly speaking phrases like, “You are beautiful,” “You are worth it’” “You are capable.” If you do this everyday, you will begin to believe it. Once you believe that you’re capable, you can accomplish anything!
  2. Surround yourself with people who support you: It may be time to access the people you spend your time with. If you’re constantly feeling judged  or find yourself surrounded with people who like to gossip, it may be time to find some new friends. Find people who inspire you and make you want to be your best. Look at what direction your friends are heading because people tend to flock with  those who they consider equal or even less than themselves in order to feel superior. This same concept applies to what we watch on T.V. If you constantly watch the news or “reality” shows filled with drama, you will most likely have a negative view of life in general. Surround yourself with as much love and positivity as possible.
  3. Be kind to others: Refrain from speaking negatively about anyone else because our opinions are really just a reflection of how we feel about ourselves. Smile everywhere you go and people will feed off of your positivity. Making someone else’s day is sometimes all we need to feel good about ourselves. Have you ever done a random act of kindness and immediately felt better about yourself? It works! It doesn’t take much to make a difference. Tell others when you think they are doing a good job. Encourage others by commenting when you notice that they got a haircut or look like they lost a few pounds. Shine your light wherever you go and you’ll feel good about the impact you’re making.
  4. Don’t judge yourself so harshly: We all struggle. We all have our days where we may eat too much or not get as much done as we planned. Give yourself a break and know that tomorrow is a new day. It is okay to take a break. It is natural to feel overwhelmed at times. Don’t let a small defeat keep you down. Look at it as an opportunity to overcome.
  5. Find something you love: If you are doing something you love than it doesn’t feel like work at all. I love to dance so Zumba was my go to and then i found Yoga which I can’t live without. I have found a love for running but it didn’t start out like that. Even if you’re not ready to exercise, finding an activity that you love that makes you feel good. May be you love reading or painting. Create a healthy outlet that will give you peace and help facilitate self-love.
  6. Eat what makes you feel good: Yes, sometimes ice-cream makes us feel good but what I mean is to find a healthy balance. We feel guilty when we over-indulge and we feel deprived when we’re constantly on a restrictive diet. Find a plan that works for you. It really is all about balance. Make sure you’re getting the nutrients that your body needs. Your eating habits directly affect your mood and energy level. I guarantee that eating better will make you feel better.
  7. Set a goal to work towards: Accomplishing a small goal can be a catapult to your success and will empower you to set more goals. I am continuously setting goals to build upon what I have already accomplished. Once you realize that you’re capable of achieving any goal you set for yourself,  you will begin to understand that your true potential is endless.
  8. Stop comparing yourself to others: This is a struggle that we all face. We never think we’re are good enough because no matter how far we’ve come, there is always someone else who we want to aspire to look like. Jealousy fuels us and it is a big problem. I have learned to only compare myself to yesterdays version of me  because I just want to be better than I was yesterday. 90 percent of the people we are aspiring to look like are photo-shopped anyway. Focus on being your best-self because you are perfect. Love yourself for where you are right now and know that you can only get better
  9. Leave the past behind you: The past can haunt us and hold us back. Stop letting who you were dictate who you will become. Leave the past where it belongs and never look back. It’s time to overcome the past mistakes and stop letting guilt and fear control you. Forgive yourself and keep moving forward. The future holds endless possibilities.
  10. Never give up!: You’re worth more than you know.  It is never too late to be your best. No matter how lost you might feel or how far you have fallen, you can get back on track. Stop saying can’t because you are capable. Change your thought process. Change your language and believe. Learning to love yourself is a life-long process. You can never get away from yourself so you might as well figure out how to love YOU. I believe in you!- Love Kelly


It’s all about Balance


It seems a bit overwhelming when you compile your to-do list for the week. How does one make time for family, fitness, and focusing on the future while maintaining a strong faith? I have to admit, it doesn’t always come easy but IT IS POSSIBLE!

The first thing that you can do to increase your time is to minimize distractions!  I am picturing a meme that I saw recently that stated, “If you have time for Facebook, you have time to exercise.” My husband wrote a powerful post about this recently. (https://zoeylifesite.com/2018/04/07/the-stand/ ) People often make excuses why they can’t.  Instead of focusing on the excuse, focus on what you can do. You are more capable than you know and you will make time for what you want to do. We waste a lot of time focusing on our problems and dwelling in the past. Keep your eyes on the possibilities. We just have to get our priorities in order and we can turn our burdens into blessings.

Here is how I break down my list of priorities:

Faith: I know that all things are possible if I believe. I have faith that God will provide and that I can do anything through Christ who gives me strength. I pray and release the burden anytime I feel overwhelmed. I just surrender it to God. I know that this is difficult for most but I have come to a realization that I am not in control of any of this. It is only by the Grace of God that I am able to wake up in the morning and live this life to the best of my ability.

Family: I consider this to be my most blessed responsibility and must take priority.  This includes supporting my husband and leading by example for my children.  I want them to know that they are capable of anything. Part of my purpose is to provide endless amounts of love and patience.  My kids say, ” Daddy is the Leader and Mommy is the Boss.” There is a lot of work that goes into the everyday planning and organization of the house-hold. They keep me moving which gives me energy and strength. All that I give out comes back to me with abundance and I feel an overwhelming amount of fulfillment from being the best wife and mother I can.

Future: Right now my focus on future includes being a full-time student in Organizational Leadership which is something I feel called to do. I am a leader in many aspects of my life and I have been forced to be more organized throughout having triplets. I balance this by taking mostly online courses and getting homework in while the kids are in school. I have managed to maintained a 4.0 which empowers me to push forward. I am registered for all but 1 class needed to obtain my bachelors degree by next Spring.

Fitness: I am passionate about fitness and the benefits that have come from living a healthy lifestyle. I consider my running and yoga time as my me-time. We must take time for ourselves to maintain a healthy balance. Teaching Zumba is a healthy outlet and it gives me energy. When you are doing what you love than it is not work at all.

Food: Food is the fuel that keeps our minds and bodies functioning. We have to put in the right stuff in order to reap the benefits. Sure you can indulge from time to time. Just remember that the fuel we put in our bodies creates the energy we put out. Treat your body well and consider eating healthy as a reward, not a punishment. You’ll feel better and you’ll perform better in all aspects of life.

Did I mention sleep? As soon as the kids are asleep, this mommy is out! I highly recommend getting your 7-8 hours of sleep in order to maximize your day.

If you take anything away from all of this, remember to minimize the distractions, focus on the positive and get your priorities in order.  Most importantly, know that when you have faith, everything else will fall into place! – Kelly Lynn Gibson





Abs are Made in the Kitchen

I never thought that I could have abs after having triplets. It is so amazing what our bodies are capable of.  As women, we struggle with stubborn belly fat. I never wanted a six pack but I found out through clean eating that I was slowly starting to see muscles form. I wasn’t doing a lot of strength training so where we’re they coming from? Aha! Abs are made in the kitchen!           

Try this simple routine that will help burn calories and build muscle, but understand that real results come from how you are fueling your body. Read your ingredients and choose carefully. You’re worth it! 


Dayton Book Expo!


Come out and support your local authors including my husband, Reginald Gibson who will be signing both of his books. The Consciousness of Man: A Guide Through the Darkness just received a 5 star accredited rating from Readersfavorite.com. https://readersfavorite.com/book-review/the-consciousness-of-man. He is also being celebrated for his new release, The Book of Wisdom: The AGE of MINDFULNESS. 

Book signings are held at 11am.

New Release Celebration is at 12pm.

Reggie will be speaking on the panel at 1pm and there will be an award ceremony at 3:45pm. For a full list of events, go to www.daytonbookexpo.com.

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Just Keep Smiling

I guess they do get it from their mommy. I turn on the music and they just can’t help but to join in. I used to keep recording my routines until the choreography was perfect and the kids were occupied. Now, I just go with the flow and hope for the best. This is real life at my house and it’s beautifully chaotic. Things don’t always go the way I plan but they usually turn out better when I just keep smiling!